Have you ever felt exhausted, fed up, overwhelmed and just plain gloomy? At this point, can you remember when you last felt euphoric? Or even excited?
Life does this to us sometimes, there’s too much to do, too many responsibilities, too little time and you don’t have the motivation to even think about excitement or euphoria. I’m afraid this is all too common and we all get to that stage at some point. Years ago, I used to get that excited feeling starting on Friday mornings when I realised the weekend was nearly here and I had a fun packed weekend planned. By the time I’d finished work on a Friday I was practically brimming with euphoria – I was free to go and have fun! However, life marches on and becomes mundane. I no longer go out every weekend, often choosing to stay in, watch the TV and have an early night. You could say that I’m sometimes quite boring and sometimes you would be right. That excited, euphoric feeling doesn’t make an appearance on a Friday any more, in fact until a while ago when I learnt to get my euphoria back, it had disappeared altogether.
So how did I get that feeling of exhilaration back?
Let’s be honest, you wouldn’t want to feel euphoric all the time, if you did, it would become normal and you be striving for an ever higher feeling which you may not reach. So here’s how I see it – a little goes a long way and you can bottle it for future use. When I realised that I no longer had that feeling in my life, I thought back to what made me feel that exhilarated, euphoric feeling. What came into my mind were silly things like dancing to loud 80’s music, the smell of autumn, the feeling I had when I walked into a surprise party that my friends had arranged for me, the first time I held hands with the person who went on to become my husband. When I think of these things, my eyes glaze over and I’m back in that moment. It’s great remembering these moments and I will never forget them, but I don’t want to always live in the past – I want to be fully present in today so that I make every minute count. Especially when you have a condition or illness, living in the moment is important. Some of things that made me euphoric when I was younger I was able to reignite, for instance the smell of autumn. I had got out of the habit of appreciating this, instead hating the nights drawing in and all the leaves mushy on the pavements. I was effectively wishing my life away buy saying ‘just get through the next 6 months and it’ll be lighter/warmer/easier to cope with etc’. Instead I actively made myself engage with autumn again, I went outside and breathed in the air and there’s something about autumn air which draws you in to the nature around you, it’s amazing. The act of taking a few deep breaths in the fresh air automatically calms you and helps you take stock of things. I then started looking at the leaves and their colours, appreciating the oranges, reds and browns. I now think autumn is beautiful and when I take time to step outside and breath in that autumn air, I feel elated and lucky to have this in my life.
The thing with regaining your euphoria, is that you have to be active and engage. It’s getting into that open frame of mind where you open the door to euphoria, ready to let it in. You may have to get out of your comfort zone as well – when I did a talk at Warwick University in front of a classroom full of highly qualified medical professionals I was nervous, scared and in no way did I want to stand up in front of them and tell them about my blood clotting journey. I stood up at the front of the room and was quite honest – I told them that I was nervous, this was my first talk and if they wouldn’t mind, I’d keep my notes with me. They all smiled at me and I calmed down a bit. By the end of the talk, my shaking legs were exhausted and I felt utterly spent. Then came the elation – the classroom erupted with applause, I was totally blown away by it. On my way home from this whilst sitting on the train, I realised I was grinning like an idiot (thank goodness the train was nearly empty!) – I had got myself right out of my comfort zone, committed to doing something different, taken action, and despite the nerves, I had achieved something huge for me. I felt absolutely euphoric.
A mundane day?
Now, speaking in front of an audience and getting applause isn’t an everyday thing, so what do I do when I feel in need of a quick pick me up? Well I did grow up in the 80’s and yes I did have the dodgy hair and the shoulder pads! So my thing is 80’s music especially the songs where you can’t help yourself but join in, and I have been known to sing and dance really badly. However, what it does is to help me really let myself go, I’m in that moment and not caring how old I am and whether I should be doing this, I AM DOING THIS!! And the feeling I get is nothing short of EUPHORIC!
What’s your equivalent of putting on an 80’s track, letting yourself go and be in the moment? Even if you start thinking of when you last felt happy, this is a start, you can build on this. Make a note of what makes you happy today and take a look at it – what can you actively engage with on that list to bring into your life right now and help bring back that euphoric feeling? If you would like to get a fresh perspective on this, I can help you, why not get in contact for a free consultation with me? Contact me here
Next Month – F is for Fear. Fear can grip you, hold onto you and prevent you from being yourself or doing what you want. I will share my experience of fear with you and tell you how I deal with fear so that it doesn’t rule me. Out on 1st January 2020.